Many of us speak negatively about ourselves. I’ve heard dancers complain about their lack of rhythm or that they dance with two left feet. Some of us nitpick at our bodies because we don’t feel sexy or aesthetically pleasing to the naked eye. We think we’re speaking the truth, but in reality, it’s damaging our self-esteem. It’s time to silence that negative self-talk and show yourself more love.
How a Positive Mindset Is the Best Prescription to Overcome Your Insecurities
Social Latin dancing is a great way to channel your confidence, but the work indeed starts with you. Before, I was guilty of telling myself I “can’t” until I read The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale. This book changed my outlook on life. I realized that I held myself back from success by empowering that negative voice. Therefore, I shifted to a positive mindset, and I’ll share some tips with you to overcome those nagging insecurities.
Replace Negative Self-Talk with Positive Affirmations. It’s easier said than done but have you heard of the theory that you become what you think? What if I told you that you’re not a horrible dancer. Reject this negative perception and tell yourself that “I am an exceptional dancer.” Repeat this statement until it seeps into your subconscious. The mind believes what you feed it.
Keep Your Insecurities to Yourself. While dancing with your partner, don’t put yourself down. In fact, keep a positive attitude even if you missed the steps or moved to the wrong timing.
At my first social, I made the faux pas of telling every partner, “I’m not that great at Salsa yet,” or “I’m a new dancer.” At the time, I felt insecure about dancing with more experienced leaders. The funny thing is that none of my partners asked about my skill level. They simply asked if I wanted to dance and a “yes” would’ve been enough. Words are powerful so choose them wisely.
Celebrate Your Strong Assets. We all have strengths but tend to focus on our flaws. Shift your perspective and embrace the beautiful aspects of yourself. For me, my best asset is my smile (thanks to five years of braces), and I’ve earned the nickname “Smiley.” If you’ve read my blog posts, you know that I smile a lot to break the tension or awkwardness while social dancing. Therefore, I challenge you to think of at least three things that you love about yourself and celebrate them!
Wear Clothes that Make You Feel Sexy. I don’t know about you, but I feel the sexiest when I wear clothes that flatter my body. Whether I’m going to a dance class or a social, I dress to impress myself. Don’t you find that you attract more compliments when you feel confident in yourself? I also noticed a difference in my confidence when I wear my high heel Salsa shoes instead of sneakers. I fall into character the moment I put a dress and my heels on. Therefore, wear clothes that make you feel sexy and comfortable in your skin.
Look at Yourself in the Mirror. Lastly, avoid looking at the person next to you and focus on your own progress. Don’t worry about how the dancer next to you caught on to the steps faster than you or looks like a professional social dancer already. Check yourself out in the mirror because that’s the only person that matters.